Narcissist Mother: 9 Angry Martyr Signs

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Angry martyr parents are on a mission to control your life and smother you slowly to death. They have a codependent style of smothering parenting in which you are not allowed to live your own life or make your own mistakes. This warped idea of love is combined with lashings of narcissistic rage to weaken you into eternal submission.

Count the signs that are true for you and your narcissistic-codependent parent as we go along to get his/her Angry Martyrdom Score.

Sign One – Puppet-Master

She practices the art of pulling your strings so that you dance your ass off dancing to HER tune. This clever handiwork is all to make sure that you NEVER make the mistake of following YOUR heart.

Sign Two – Guilt Basher

Dare not to abide her loving commandments and thou shalt be guilt tripped for your sins. “Oh what dreadful shame you have brought to us all!”

Sign Three – World on Her Shoulders

Life’s a heavy burden for the angry martyr who looks at the world as if it’s one big problem with your name on it. “What an ungrateful child!”

Sign Four – Absolutely Miserable

Your martyr is angry at life because they thought selfless work and service at your alter would bring contentment. Oops The universe doesn’t work like that.

Sign Five – Straight-Jacket Love

Your angry martyr’s devotion to you is bondage slowing smothering you to death. “Don’t ever leave me YOU PIECE OF SHIT.”

Sign Six – Blame Game

Angry Marytrs are ignorant folk. When something bad happens they find a convenient scapegoat to blame and victimise. “It’s all your fault.”

Sign Seven – Conditional Devotion

Your angry martyr is ready to kick you out of her her toxic love soup in a heartbeat. Her finger is constantly poised over your ejector seat – “So don’t you dare put a foot wrong.”

Sign Eight – Inconsistent Smothering

Wherever you find the biggest drama going on, your angry martyr will be there serving at the front line. This is why for months at a time she is sometimes too busy to rescue you. “OH SWEET RELIEF!”

Sign Nine – Mollycoddling

You’ve been out of daipers for 30 years but yet she still treats you like a child. Everytime she babifies you, this twisted s.o.b is taking away your personal power.

Angry martyrs are not just hard to love: they’re dangerous.

How many signs were true for your suspected angry martyr?


Low Angry Martyr Score 1-3

Medium Angry Martyr Score 4-6

High Angry Martyr Score 7-9

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For more narcissist tests:

Narcissism Test – Covert Narcissism Signs

8 Signs of a Somatic Narcissist

To test if you are codpendent:

Codependency Test


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